It may be late in the day, but Happy Labor Day to all! Another holiday we are all celebrating is Meg’s Monday Musing! Just kidding. Kind of… Anyways, M.M.M is a monthly meme I do on the first Monday of every month. You may refer to my first post here, for the nitty gritty details.
Since it’s… *drum roll please*
I will be doing 7 quotes from a book I’m REAL excited about… Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari! I will hopefully have a super fun review/post about that book up sometime this week but I think these quotes should shed some light about how AMAZEBALLS this book is!
Now we all know Aziz from his hilarious character from Parks & Rec, Tom Haverford. So it’s pretty obvious he’s an hilarious actor and comic, but his humor translates beautifully into his writing as well.
“In a sense we are all like a Flo Rida song: The more time you spend with us, the more you see how special we are. Social scientists refer to this as the Flo Rida Theory of Acquired Likability Through Repetition.”- Modern Romance, Aziz Ansari
“As a public figure, I have never considered doing any online dating. I always figured there was a chance someone who was a stalker type would use it as an opportunity to kidnap and murder me… Maybe my stalker (probably an Indian dude) sees my profile and thinks, Oh, here’s that comedian guy on OkCupid. FINALLY, I have a way to reach out to him and slowly plot his murder. He sends me a message pretending to be a woman. I see the profile. ‘She’ likes tacos and Game of Thrones. I’m very excited.”- Modern Romance, Aziz Ansari
“My perfect date night: I pick you up. In my Kia Sorrento. You get in. There’s candles in the car. You go ‘Is that dangerous?” and I go, ‘Yes… but I like danger.’ We go to your favorite restaurant, and we have a fantastic meal. We come outside and we see my car’s on fire. You go, ‘Aziz, your car’s on fire. Aren’t you upset?’ I pull out a bag of marshmallows and I go, ‘No. I knew this was gonna happen.’ And then I kiss you. In front of my burning car.”- Modern Romance, Aziz Ansari
But this book also sheds a ton of insight onto dating culture in today’s society:
“Marriage was an economic institution in which you were given a partnership for life in terms of children and social status and succession and companionship. But now we want our partner to still give us all these things, but in addition I want you to be my best friend and my trusted confidant and my passionate lover to boot, and we live twice as long. So we come to one person, and we basically are asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide: Give me belonging, give me identity, give me continuity, but give me transcendence and mystery and awe all in one. Give me comfort, give me edge. Give me novelty, give me familiarity. Give me predictability, give me surprise. And we think it’s a given, and toys and lingerie are going to save us with that. Ideally, though, we’re lucky, and we find our soul mate and enjoy that life-changing mother lode of happiness. But a soul mate is a very hard thing to find.”- Modern Romance, Aziz Ansari
“As a medium, it’s safe to say, texting facilitates flakiness and rudeness and many other personality traits that would not be expressed in a phone call or an in-person interaction.”- Modern Romance, Aziz Ansari
“For me the takeaway of these stories is that, no matter how many options we seem to have on our screens, we should be careful not to lose track of the human beings behind them. We’re better off spending quality time getting to know actual people than spending hours with our devices, seeing who else is out there.”- Modern Romance, Aziz Ansari
and of course, my favorite quote from this book that gave me all the feels:
“When I've really been in love with someone, it's not because they looked a certain way or liked a certain TV show or a certain cuisine. It's more because when I watched a certain TV show or ate a certain cuisine with them, it was the most fun thing ever.” - Modern Romance, Aziz Ansari